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EBH #11.2: Those signs are for you, Don’t neglect them!

posted by Anonymous December 11, 2018 0 comments

Somebody wake me up!!! This is a joke right!
I kept repeating the “I decided to get pregnant part. I was shocked! Abi it is only in movies that husbands react beautifully to the news of pregnancy? I didn’t know what to think where I was seated.
I decided to tell my sister so her excitement could help me get over my anger and even though we spoke at length, I only felt better in that moment, after hanging up, I felt bitter!!! I had never been as bitter in my life for every single thing I thought of doing I considered the little one in me, I felt so weak! I felt even talking will make me loose my baby…
Somehow I slept off…

We continued living like nothing happened.
After about a week plus, I started falling sick, I couldn’t stand, I could do nothing by myself…
My house help (God bless her soul) Did everything, the only time she was not with me was when she had to go to Arabic school in the evening after maghrib, And even that, I literally had to force her. Sometimes I will feel better and have enough energy to take care of myself and do chores and sometimes it was like I was staring at the angel of death, pregnancy dealt with me!
And at this point I had lost all sense of connection with my husband… I didn’t care what time he returned anymore, everything in our marriage was a routine, Everything, even intimacy was! And I was used to it, You can’t change someone who doesn’t want to change, you can only pray for them!!!! (Sisters take note of that).

On this faithful day, I woke up very energetic and happy, I even told my house-help she could go and see her people but she refused, saying that’s how I will start feeling weak in the next one hour.. I made my hair that day, I cooked, called relatives for hours, we laughed and My Mum had agreed to visit me the following month…so I was excited…
At about 7pm I started feeling tired, my househelp who was leaving for Arabic school had came to inform me she was leaving in a bit, so I told her I was sleepy it was probably due to the food I had, I added that she should be at alert, that I needed her to pick some bags from a neighbor who called to advertise earlier but I hadn’t made up my mind but once I do, I will call her…

As soon as she left, I slept off, at about 8:40 PM, I woke up feeling very uncomfortable, I couldn’t lift myself, I was feeling light headed and was very crampy, I looked down reflexly and my life changed! My Baby!,took my phone called my househelp she wasn’t picking , called my husband severally ‘he wasn’t picking “
The more I saw blood, the more I panicked…
My husband had sent me a text which I couldn’t read, my househelp thought I wanted the bags so she entered our neighbors house for them but the neighbor couldn’t remember which of the bags I wanted so she had called me just when I was about calling her, At this point all I could say was “come my baby! In tears!!!”

Woke up next to both my neighbor and my househelp…
How is my Baby doing? Calm down madam your baby is okay… The Dr said.
I said Alhamdulillah, then I asked my househelp where my husband was, she said he had gone home to get me some Items, I asked her for my phone, she handed it to me, I opened my inbox to see the message my husband had sent to me…. “Hey! What’s is? It’s noisy here, I am at Majalisa (with his friends), send me a text” (In Hausa)..
Everything started replaying in my head, how could I have lost so much blood and my baby is okay? I don’t feel so, but if truly my baby is fine, I will forever be grateful to Allah..
The Doctor came and was asking for my husband but he was no where to be found…
My father inlaw and sister in laws came visiting and the doctor again had returned to ask for my husband, no one could reach him on phone so my father inlaw decided to see the Doctor, he came back to call my sister in law and they took time discussing…
She came back held my hands tightly and didn’t say a word…. I said break the news already, she still didn’t say a word but she kept praying…
My husband had entered the room with hot water and food with a gloomy face, My sister asked if he had seen their Dad, he said yes, then she stood up and left pulling my househelp with her…

It was just me and my husband…
“I really don’t know what to say, but we need to save you, The Doctor said there are plenty complications and you need to go through a D and C as soon as possible…”

I was cold, tears dripping out of my eyes, I looked at him, smiled and said D and C? , I will do it on one condition…
He asked what condition?
You will divorce me if I survive it… Please call my mother, I need to speak with her…

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